What does self-healing include?

There has never been a unified and standardized list of self-healing. Essentially, all actions you initiate that can help you calm your mood swings, repair past psychological trauma, and rebuild an inner stable order fall into the category of self-healing. Not only "recognized formal" operations such as mindfulness meditation and making appointments for psychological counseling count.

There is currently a lot of controversy about the content boundaries of self-healing. Some academics believe that it must touch deep trauma and complete cognitive reconstruction before it can be considered true healing. Otherwise, it is just a temporary emotional escape.； Another group of people who have been practicing for many years believe that there is no need to dig into the past for most daily emotional internal conflicts. It is enough to make the current state comfortable and not affect subsequent life. If you insist on digging up the trauma, it may cause secondary harm.

I used to know a little girl who worked in content operations. She resigned from her job a few years ago after being PUAed. She didn't dare to submit a resume for half a year, and she even panicked when talking to strangers. She had never signed up for any therapy classes that cost thousands of dollars, nor had she received any long-term psychological consultation. She just went to the park near her home every evening to feed herself for half an hour. She was a stray cat, squatting under a tree and watching the kitten come and nuzzle her palm. She just stayed there quietly without thinking about anything. After feeding her like this for more than three months, she gradually dared to talk to the recruiter's HR normally, and later successfully joined the new company. For her, the half hour spent feeding the cat while squatting in the park was the most effective form of self-healing.

Of course, this does not mean that self-healing is all about "relying on feelings". If it is a deep trauma that has affected normal eating, sleeping, and social functions, a more systematic approach should be used. For example, many people who have experienced the death of relatives or friends or major accidents will undergo writing therapy under the guidance of psychological workers. They will write down the unspoken words and undigested emotions that are stuck in their hearts word for word. Regardless of whether the logic is coherent or the writing is good or not, the writing process is the process of pouring out the accumulated emotions. ； Some people are also used to doing body scans. They lie down and notice the tension in their shoulders, necks, and backs, and slowly loosen the tight muscles. After all, many undigested emotions will eventually turn into knots in the body and stiff shoulders and necks. If you relax the body, most of the blockages in your heart will be relieved.

Nowadays, many people think that self-healing is a pseudo-concept created by businessmen. If you are in a bad mood, you can get over it by sleeping and eating a good meal, so you can't afford to do so many tricks. In fact, this statement is not wrong. The essence is that everyone has different demand thresholds for "healing". For people who are a little irritable after working overtime, opening a bag of favorite potato chips and watching a 10-minute funny short video is healing. ； For people who are trapped in long-term self-denial, it may take a few months to slowly sort out their cognitive models. There is no right or wrong between the two methods, as long as they are useful.

To put it bluntly, self-healing is like the little first aid kit you carry with you. Some people put it with band-aids and iodophors, while others put it with painkillers and antipyretic patches. There is no need to stuff things into your own bag according to other people's lists. When you really encounter a situation, what can help you relieve pain and help you get better is the content that is most suitable for you.