What words can be used to describe self-healing?

There is actually no standard answer to this question, and the opinions given by people with different experiences are very different. However, in the context of long-term practitioners, the most frequently mentioned descriptions are not terms in textbooks, but are words extracted from real feelings - such as "emotional bombing," "cognitive disenchantment," and "inner loosening" are the most frequently mentioned.

If you ask someone who has just climbed out of an emotional quagmire, his answer may be more down-to-earth. I used to know a boy who worked in Internet operations. He was diagnosed with moderate anxiety the year before last. He could only sleep two or three hours a day for more than three months in a row. His hands shook even when holding a water glass. He became panicked when his hands made the slightest noise. He said that self-healing during that period was, to put it bluntly, "putting on the brakes." Before, he always felt that all his work must be delivered perfectly, his colleagues' requests could not be refused, and his parents' expectations must be fully met. His whole figure was like a fully drawn bow that would break if he applied too much force. The first thing he learned during the six months of recovery was to say "I can't do it."

Some people also think that these perceptual statements are too "soft". Self-healing is essentially a very rational action and should be called "cognitive disenchantment". I received a submission from a reader before. She has been taught since she was a child that "you are a sister and you have to take care of your brother" and "your parents will not love you if you don't behave." After working, she always subconsciously pleases everyone. She was so tired that she had endocrine disorders. She had to go through psychological counseling for almost a year before she dared to raise boundaries with her parents and refuse her brother's bottomless request for money. She said that there was no tenderness or comfort in this process. It was all about fighting against misconceptions that had been engraved in her mind for more than 20 years. Sometimes she had just figured out "I don't need to be responsible for my brother's life" the day before, but she was shaken back to her original state after receiving a call from her mother the next day. Then he broke it apart and threw out the fallacies one by one, like cleaning out malicious plug-ins from a virus-infected computer. After cleaning it, the whole brain felt refreshed. It was not something that could be solved by crying twice. It had to be clear-headed and cruel enough to do it.

Of course, there are also particularly romantic sayings. Last month I attended a small mindfulness salon, and a girl who made flower arrangements said that she felt that self-healing was "watering the flowers in your heart." In order to raise money to start a business for her ex-boyfriend, she closed her favorite flower art studio and worked three jobs a day. In the end, she was broken up. During that time, she felt annoyed even seeing flowers. The process of healing is to pick up flower art again, and set up a free flower arrangement stall in the park one day a week. The bright yellow sunflowers I dared not use before are all arranged very fluffy. I don’t have to consider the cost or whether others like it. I just have fun doing it myself. More than half a year later, her new studio was opened, and she felt extremely relaxed. She said that before, she always gave all her energy to others, forgetting that she also had a flower seedling in her heart. After being dry for several years, she finally remembered to water it, so it bloomed slowly.

In fact, many people feel that there is no need to find an accurate word to describe self-healing. After all, everyone's experience is different. Some people need to stop and take a breath, some people need to scrape the rust off their brains, and some people just need to give themselves more sweetness. As long as it can really make you feel better, you can say that it is like "buying yourself a candy".