Self-healing copywriting

The core of self-healing is not to quickly clear negative emotions and force yourself to return to a "normal state" immediately, but to allow yourself to be an ordinary person who "will be sad, out of control, and temporarily unable to walk." Coexisting with all true feelings is the best healing.

Many people have too deep misunderstandings about self-healing. They always think that there must be a standard process: they need to meditate, keep an emotional diary, find a counselor to dig out childhood trauma, and even force themselves to get out of the trough within three days. If they can't do it, they are not strong enough. A while ago, I received a consultation and met a young girl who had just broken up. She checked in "Positive Mentality Day

There is no correct healing posture.

I have met practitioners from different directions in the field of psychology, and their methods are actually quite different. Psychoanalytic counselors will recommend that you look back for clues: For example, if you are broken down now because of an understatement from your leader, it may not be how serious the matter itself is. It may be that the memory of you failing in the exam and being denied by your parents when you were a child has been brought up. Find the small wound hidden deep in the heart, and talk to the frightened child back then. Many knotted emotions will dissipate on their own. Mindfulness counselors are different. They don't like to get to the root of the problem. Instead, they will tell you to put your hands on your chest and feel whether your heartbeat is fast or slow at the moment. Is your chest feeling congested? There is no need to scold yourself, "I can't handle such a small thing," just quietly feel the pent-up energy and wait for three to five minutes, and it will release on its own. There is also the positive psychology approach that many people like now. It does not feed you chicken soup to force you to be happy, but helps you look through your own "resource library": How did you get over a similar obstacle last time? Do you have even one friend around you who can listen to your rants for half an hour without judging you? What do you do that completely loses track of time? Once you find these handholds, you don't have to carry them hard, you can slowly walk out by holding on to something.

To talk about myself, a key project I was responsible for last year was canceled before it was launched, and the entire team's three months of hard work was lost. I went home that day and turned off my phone. I sat on the sofa and watched the old version of "Pleasant Goat and Big Big Wolf" for three whole days. I ordered my favorite sweet and sour pork with rice, and I didn't even bother to wash my face. When a friend found out about it, he sent me a message and said, "Hurry up and adjust your status. There will be new projects later." I immediately replied at that time, "It's okay to adjust. I'll be happy for three days before talking about it." Don't tell me, I didn't think about work at all during those three days, and I didn't force myself to "keep myself up and excel". I just treated myself as a primary school student without homework. I had fun for three days. When I opened my eyes on the fourth day, I automatically turned on the computer and changed my resume to find a new direction. There was no lag at all.

Some people will definitely ask: Then if I have been so indulgent, doesn’t it become a problem of escaping? Not at all. Emotions are like an uninvited guest in your home. If you find them annoying and block the door to prevent you from entering, they will bang on your door until you have a nervous breakdown. If you open the door generously, pour it a cup of tea, and let it sit for a while, it will leave on its own after it has sat enough, and it will not stay at your house at all. I have seen too many people spend all their energy on "fighting emotions" and have no energy to solve the real problem.

Of course, I don’t mean that all problems can be solved by lying down. If you haven't been able to sleep well for half a month, can't eat, and are no longer interested in the things you loved the most before, don't force yourself to do it. Talk to a professional psychological counselor. This isn't weakness, it's taking responsibility for yourself.

Really, there is no single standard answer to self-healing. Some people are sad and just want to run ten kilometers and sweat. Some people feel comfortable just sitting at home and crying with three bags of tissues. Some people have to talk to friends about the whole story 800 times before they can feel better. Whatever you do is fine, as long as you don’t criticize yourself in your heart.

If you're not happy today, just stay unhappy for now. It's not against the law.