Psychological consultation inquiry results

Emotional problems such as anxiety, panic, and self-denial that occur before and after the score check can be effectively alleviated through psychological counseling. Different schools of intervention methods adapt to different needs. There is no optimal solution. Matching one's own emotional state can quickly reduce discomfort.

I didn’t just make this up while sitting in the consultation room. Last week, I took on a girl who was taking the postgraduate entrance examination for World War II. She couldn’t eat normally a week before her score was released. She shed tears whenever she saw someone else’s post about her score. She didn’t even dare to mention the word “postgraduate entrance examination” when talking to her parents. The first consultation lasted an hour and a half. When I left, I was able to smile and say that I was going to eat butter hot pot that I had been thinking about for a long time.

You must have felt that way, right? Half an hour before the score check, the phone was as hot as a soldering iron in my hand. My fingers were shaking when I entered my ID number. I entered the wrong number three times but still didn’t enter it correctly. The moment I clicked the “Check” button, I felt like my heart was about to beat. If the score was lower than expected, the blood would rush to the top of my head in an instant. I would either squat on the ground and cry, or my mind would go blank for a long time and I would not be able to recover. This reaction is so normal and you really are not being pretentious.

Nowadays, there are always people arguing on the Internet: "Is it necessary to find a counselor to check my emotions?" Too glassy", which is actually correct. I have seen many people go hiking with friends before checking their scores, or get drunk and fall asleep, and then check their scores again after waking up. They can still handle it. Everyone's emotional carrying capacity is different, so there is no need to put the shackles on yourself that "you must see a counselor". But if your emotions have affected your normal life, such as being unable to sleep for three or four days in a row, being out of breath when you think about checking scores, or even having thoughts of harming yourself, then don’t hold on, professional intervention is 10,000 times better than holding it in yourself.

Different counselors have quite different ways of dealing with this type of problem. There is no distinction between them, it just depends on which one you choose. If you just want to solve the current panic and don't want to talk about childhood shadows, then you are right to find a counselor with a cognitive behavioral orientation. They will teach you two 5-4-3-2-1 grounding techniques. Take them out when your hands are shaking before checking the scores. Come and use it, feel the mug at hand to see if it is cool, listen to whether there are birds chirping outside the window, and count three red objects you can see. In three to five minutes, you can be pulled back from the catastrophic imagination of "if I fail the test, my life will be over." If you feel like you panic every time you encounter such an important node, not only checking your scores, but also being nervous to the point of forgetting your words during job interviews and reporting to leaders. If you want to find out why, it would be more appropriate to find a counselor with a spiritual motivation or a humanistic orientation. I had a client before. He had diarrhea after checking his scores. After talking for three times, he found out that he scored 80 points for the first time in the third grade of elementary school. His father tore up the paper and threw it in his face. Later, every time he encountered an important test, his intestines and stomach took the pressure for him first. The root cause was sorted out, and you will know how to deal with it next time.

Oh, by the way, don't expect psychological counseling to change your scores. I met a very interesting client. The first thing he asked when he came in was "Teacher, can you hypnotize me so that I can get 20 more points when I check my scores?" ”I almost laughed out loud and told him that if I had this ability, could I first hypnotize myself and win five million? What psychological counseling can do is to help you smooth out those emotions that make you breathless. No matter whether the results are good or bad, you will have the strength to handle them instead of collapsing as soon as you see the scores.

Last year, a young man who took the exam came to see me. He had been taking the exam for the fourth year. If he failed the last one, all the previous exams would be invalid. He stayed at home the day before the score check, holding a fruit knife and making gestures on his wrist for a long time. Finally, he found my contact information and called me. We chatted on the phone for 40 minutes. We didn’t talk about anything big. We just stayed with him to adjust his breathing. He finally said, “I dare to click the query button now. Even if I fail, I won’t be in trouble if I try again.” In the end, he failed to pass by 3 points, but later he specifically sent me a message, saying that he felt relieved after hanging up the phone that day. He went to buy new review materials the next day and took the exam again this year, so it was no big deal.

In fact, to put it bluntly, checking scores is like opening a blind box that has already been filled with things. No matter how much you paid when preparing for the exam, the results inside have already been determined. No matter how panicked you are, you can't change the contents of the box. If you are too panicked to open the box, there is no shame in finding someone to open it with you.