mental health content brief

It is enough to be able to catch the small joys in daily life, not to have negative emotions stay for more than 3 days, and not to have more than realistic demands on yourself and others.

I have been working in grassroots psychological services for 6 years, and I have met too many people who make this complicated. Last month, a sophomore came over, holding three wrinkled popular psychology books in his hands. He said that he had checked the items on "avoidant attachment" and "highly sensitive personality", and the more he read, the more he felt that he was "full of problems." I asked him if there was anything he had done recently that made him happy without having to think about it. He was stunned for two seconds and said that last week he won five games in a row with his roommate. How do you think this is mentally unhealthy? Chun Chun was trapped by the fragmented labels on the Internet.

There was a girl who worked in Internet operations who worked overtime for three consecutive weeks. She sat across from me and cried for ten minutes, saying that she must be suffering from depression. I handed her a glass of warm milk and asked her if there was anything she could do to make her feel better. She said with a smile that she took a detour from get off work the day before yesterday to buy some ice powder with triple taro balls. When she took the first sip, she suddenly felt, "Ah, I can still hold on for a few more days." Although she still had to change the eighth version of the plan the next day, she didn't feel as panicky as the chest tightness. You see, being able to be brought back by a mouthful of ice powder is not a big problem. If you insist on labeling yourself a serious illness, it will just add a layer of psychological burden.

In fact, academic circles have always had different views on this point, and there is no absolute standard answer. Psychoanalytically oriented counselors will advocate digging deeper into the early roots of emotions. For example, if you are afraid of talking to your boss now, it may be because you had unresolved fear of your strict father when you were a child. Indeed, many people have solved years of knots through this kind of sorting out, but there are also many ordinary clients who report that they cannot recover from their childhood trauma for several days. It was originally just a small problem in workplace communication, but in the end it made them feel, "There is something wrong with me."” ； The cognitive behavioral school (CBT) is more focused on immediate adjustments and teaches you to identify the unreasonable belief "I must do everything perfect". It has quick results. However, some people feel that it is too much like doing logic exercises and lacks the warmth of "being caught and being empathized with". ； Positive psychology, which has become popular in recent years, encourages everyone to focus on their own strengths and not always focus on correcting "faults". It is also easy to be complained about as "chicken soup for the soul when you stand and talk without backache", which cannot solve actual survival problems. In fact, there is no need to worry about which school to choose, the method that works for you is the best method.

I worked on industry projects for half a month in the past two years. During that time, I was annoyed by everyone. When I came home, I would slam doors and throw things. My consultant friends of the same generation ridiculed me and said, "You are burnt out. You need to find a supervisor to do a case." For me, squatting on the roadside and watching children running wildly and blowing in the evening breeze is much more effective than sitting in a consultation room for an hour of structured case conceptualization.

Of course, this does not mean that all problems can be solved by drinking Coke and eating ice powder. If you cannot sleep well for more than two weeks in a row, lose interest in all the things you used to do, and even find it difficult to eat and bathe, don't force yourself to do it, and don't think, "Is this such a trivial matter worth seeing a doctor?" You should go to a psychiatric department for investigation and consultation. This is the same as taking medicine and injections when you have a serious cold. There is no shame in it.

To put it bluntly, mental health is never a “qualification certificate” that requires hard work to achieve. It does not require you to be always happy, always positive, and always emotionally stable. You can be emo, you can get angry, you can be lazy occasionally and don't want to go to work or socialize. As long as these emotions don't stop you from going on and don't affect your normal eating, sleeping, and daily life, it's totally fine. Don't make this matter so complicated. The simpler it is, the easier it will be to live a comfortable life.