A virgin talks about his views on virginity

　　I don't shy away from saying how much I value virginity. In this open era, this view may be ridiculed and criticized, but I am upright and worthy of it. What I don’t understand is, since this is an outdated concept, and since there are so many men who don’t care, why do so many “non-virgins” still cheat, cover up, and want to marry a feudal figure with a “virgin complex”?

　　I am a virgin, and I hope my lover's wife is a pure and serious girl, just as I hope she is gentle, kind, and virtuous. The value of chastity in my mind does not lie in the physical membrane, but in a girl's respect for love and her indulgence and restraint on herself.

　　What is the core of the virginity issue? It's not about the man's provocation, but the woman's hiding.

　　There shouldn't be any virginity issues. If you are not a virgin, tell your boyfriend. If he is a gentleman with an open mind, he will naturally not dislike you. If he is a person with serious "feudal ideas", is this kind of man still worthy of your love? Worth marrying? Isn’t it just the right time to escape from the sea of ​​suffering? Why do you still try every possible means to marry him through deception when you know he is a "feudal figure"?

　　A person who is not open-minded boy After your wife knows that you are not a virgin, she may feel uncomfortable. He will think, measure your personality, and your feelings. If he thinks you are a good girl, he will naturally accept you. If he really values ​​this aspect above all else, you are not suitable for him in the first place, right?

　　Don't tell me that you don't want to leave him, don't tell me that many boys care. You know all this before it happens. It is impossible for a girl or an adult not to know that boys attach great importance to "purity". The key is your own choice. Don't use the excuse that it was your ex-boy who forced you. If a boy really loves a girl, then your rejection before marriage can only make him respect you more. If a boy really leaves you because of your rejection, it is definitely your luck, not your loss. He didn't have any good ideas to begin with.

　　There is one thing in this world called principles. For example, we cannot kill people or steal things. Although stealing and possessing other people's money and things is a very comfortable and enjoyable thing, the reason why stealing is rare is precisely because we use principles to ask ourselves never to do this, and we also know that doing so may have very bad consequences. It is also a principle to be serious about love and marriage, and not to have sex before marriage. It's just that some people use it to restrain themselves, and some people don't care. I can't guarantee that every virgin will demand this of themselves, but the person who demands themselves this way must be a virgin. A non-virgin must be a person who can give up self-restraint on her sexual behavior under certain conditions.

　　This is probably where most boys choose virgins. Rather than looking for a layer of membrane, it is better to say that I am looking for a person, a person with principles.

　　There is another saying in this world called "Be willing to admit defeat". When you place your bet you are definitely hopeful, although you may still be a little uncertain. Your willingness to commit to a boy before marriage is also a gamble. But the bet is your own choice, no one forces you. But once you place a bet, you know whether you will win or lose, and you will never have that many chips in your hand.

　　The era we live in is a transitional era. Many people respect the morals of the past, and many people admire new fashions. Both options have their own pros and cons: among our parents' generation, under traditional morality, there may not be a lot of sexual pleasure and love indulgence, but there are indeed a lot of ordinary and warm, lifelong true feelings of staying together through thick and thin. Under the impact of modern trends, although marriage is fragile, you can pursue "perfect sex" and "perfect love" without restraint. No matter which one you choose, please remember that there is no free lunch in this world, please remember to be willing to admit defeat.