Have you ever experienced a real orgasm?

　　In fact, the most “real” question about “how to truly have sex” is whether there is first and foremost something that is “real” involved. As some people have told us, it’s entirely possible to be 50 years old, to have experienced “everything,” and yet suddenly to feel something unusual—something that you have never accepted or given before: a kiss.

　　The real spark of sex is mysterious, and has nothing to do with technique at all.

　　It is only when the mind and body are united that it matters

　　Contrary to the views of those who prioritize technique above all else, for a considerable period of time, it was believed that “true sex” was the union of sex and love. Humans once moved from a love devoid of emotion, aimed solely at procreation, to a form of love that was non-reproductive—during a time when contraceptive methods had not yet been invented.

　　After 1968, the West entered an era of all-encompassing sexuality, where people were encouraged to "enjoy sexual pleasure without restraint," and even without the need for emotional involvement. Although the impact of the sexual revolution has faded, it is undeniable that the Chinese people of today are catching up with its effects.

　　A cartoon in The New Yorker accurately captures the most traditional distinction between men and women：

　　A couple was sitting in bed, wearing pajamas. She looked very angry and was holding up a sign with a big slogan written on it: “No love = no sex. He also held up his own slogan in his hand: “Asexual means no love.

　　But we can hardly trust the information conveyed by such materials anymore: It is acknowledged that many women are able to separate sex from love, while many men say they need to feel emotional connection before engaging in sexual activity.

　　In sexual intercourse, be brave enough to push beyond your own limitations

　　This evolution is also evident in other areas: We are moving from a “romantic” model that is based solely on emotions to a “sensual” couple model, where both partners seek to share intense sensory experiences together. I’m sure you often hear your girlfriends say the same thing too: “If I met someone who could evoke such strong feelings in me, I would marry him. ”

　　We therefore face new challenges as a result: Let yourself be truly and deeply “moved”.

　　True sexual intercourse is always subversive. We must be brave enough to break free from the shackles of those fears within us and dare to improvise together with our partners, even when we think we no longer find each other appealing.