How to release psychological pressure

In fact, there is no one-size-fits-all standard answer. The method that can help you discharge the "congested" energy stuck in the body without causing additional burden on you is the most suitable way of release for you. I met a girl who worked in content operations two years ago. During that time, she practiced mindfulness meditation following the "Scientific Stress Relief Checklist" on the Internet. After sitting for ten minutes, her mind was filled with unfinished scripts. The more she sat, the more anxious she became. Later, she accidentally took a detour from get off work and went to the vegetable market. She squatted in front of the seafood stall and watched the boss fish and kill the fish. She touched the neatly marked fresh corn and smelled the aroma of soy sauce from the braised food stall next to her. After walking for 20 minutes and going home, she felt relaxed. It was much more useful than the hundreds of yuan meditation class she had bought before.

In fact, there has been controversy in the academic community about the "right and wrong" methods of decompressing. One group insists on choosing positive and constructive methods, such as exercising, talking to friends, and writing emotional diaries. They believe that venting methods such as tearing paper and throwing decompression dolls will intensify people's aggression, and long-term use is not conducive to emotional regulation.； However, there are also many front-line clinical counselors who hold different opinions. Many of the clients they come into contact with are people who are used to suppressing their emotions and requiring themselves to be rational and rational in everything. Forcing them to "actively adjust" will bring new pressure. On the contrary, allowing them to do small things that are "meaningless or even a little destructive" will have a much better effect. I met a young man who was doing back-end development last week. He had been working hard for more than a month to get the project online. He felt that even swearing was not in line with his professional image. His chest was so tight that he couldn't sleep well for almost two weeks. My idea for him was to buy ten pounds of scrap newspapers, go home and close the door to tear them up as much as he wanted.

Don’t look down on these methods because they are not “scientific”. To put it bluntly, psychological stress is an overload alarm sounded by your brain and body. Just like when your phone gets hot, you have to let it rest. You can’t just put a cooling back clip on and run large applications. Although the surface temperature has dropped, the internal losses are actually not reduced at all. Many people always say, "When you get busy, you forget about stress." In fact, they don't forget. They just temporarily suppress their emotions and store them in their subconscious mind. When one day they encounter a fuse that is too small, they will explode. I used to know an older brother who worked as an auditor. He usually worked overtime for half a month without saying a word. In the end, because the wrong meal was delivered and the omelette he requested was missing, he squatted downstairs in the company and cried for almost 20 minutes. The previous pressure was too much, and an omelette became the straw that broke the camel's back.

It’s interesting to say that pressure is like a bucket under the eaves on a rainy day. You don’t have to find a standard ladle to scoop out the water. You can just grab a bowl or even a cup and pour it out. As long as you don’t wait until the water is full and overflows all over the floor before you remember to deal with it. If you are facing the screen and feel your brain is bloated and your chest is feeling tight, don't hold on to your productivity. Stand up and walk to the window, find a tree or building in the distance and stare at it for half a minute. When the wind blows the leaves, just move your eyes. You don't have to force yourself to "relax", just do such a useless little thing, and you will probably be able to relax a little bit. Oh, by the way, don’t believe the dead rules on the Internet that “you must exercise three times a week to relieve stress.” If you are so tired that you can’t even lift your arms, then you can sit on the sofa and watch funny short videos that are not nutritious for half an hour, laughing until your stomach hurts.