Why are men afraid of cuckolding?

　　A very interesting phenomenon is that when men go on business trips or stay out for some reason, they feel nothing. And once women go out, they often have "ulterior motives". Although they are not like women dealing with men, they are still restless after receiving one phone call after another. People who know how to joke say this: The love between husband and wife is obvious, and the wife is reluctant to leave her alone for one night.

　　Men are afraid of cuckolding

　　In fact, from a psychological point of view, this is the "unrest" hidden in a man's heart. Let's call it "cuckold phobia" in a popular way. This kind of "insecurity" is the fear of something happening to his wife behind her back.

　　Studies have shown that women trust their husbands much more than men trust their wives. This is consistent with real life - men can confidently stay out all night drinking, playing mahjong, and coax women away with a few words, but this is often not the case for men with women.

　　I once saw a case where a couple announced the dissolution of their marriage after three years of marriage.

　　The reason for the divorce is that the husband has extreme distrust of his wife. Whenever his wife goes out, the husband will check her underwear. If he finds a lot of secretions, he will get to the bottom of it and chase her. After living in a tense atmosphere of suspicion and suspicion for a long time, the string of marriage finally found its way into people's hearts. nerve It breaks before it breaks.

　　Sexual behavior is exclusive psychology

　　Having sexual intercourse will inevitably leave a large amount of secretions on the underwear. This husband's "virginity testing method" is straightforward, but he forgot, female Increased secretions from the lower body may originate from many aspects, including sexual activities (including sexual imagination) and Gynecology Illness, strenuous physical exercise, etc., "secretion" became a "stand-in" for his distrustful mentality, forming a psychological cycle in which "secretion" = "cheating".

　　There is also a typical "wife-suspicious" behavior - questioning the people around the wife male , showing strong disgust, colleagues, classmates, friends and even relatives, as long as he is a man and gets along with him frequently, especially if his wife mentions him a lot, he will be put on the "blacklist". Carrying this "blacklist", he will accumulate into "cuckold phobia". He spends time studying and ranking the frequency, place and time of contact between his wife and these "suspicious objects", and is in a state of high alert and vigilance for a long time. He always feels that "there is something going on", but he can never catch the handle.

　　The extension of virginity complex

　　There are many reasons for this distrust, but collectively there are only a few types:

　　One is due to the "virgin complex". When getting married, the wife is "suspected of being a virgin", or it is very clear that she is not her first lover.

　　The second is remarried couples, both of whom have a history of marriage and have varying degrees of "re-love experience"”

　　The third is inferiority complex. In this case, the woman is usually outgoing and has a much more successful career than the man. There is a phenomenon where women are strong and men are weak.

　　The fourth is hearsay, and being troubled by special examples around me. I heard that a certain woman had such an experience, and I was always wary of my own people.

　　As the saying goes, "A heart ailment needs a heart-warming doctor" and "To untie a bell, it needs a person to tie it." Trust comes from the purity of the feelings of both parties and also depends on the "calmness" of the individual's heart. There is a "hallucinatory" inference for reference - if you say it has it, it will exist, if you say it does not have it, it will not exist. So, why not infer that it is nothing?

　　The zoo's animal trainers can still reach a tacit understanding of getting along with the beasts, why can't they have more trust with their legal spouses?