Three major misunderstandings about men’s sexual concepts

　　1. Overemphasis on the number and frequency of sexual life

　　There is a public opinion among men that the more times they have sex, the more qualified and masculine the man is; the more satisfied and happy his wife will be. On the other hand, husbands who do it less often are said to be "unable to serve (or deal with) their wives" and are considered "not manly enough".

　　In fact, most wives do not think so. Compared with emotional communication and sexual life, according to an expert survey of 1,279 couples in 31 large and medium-sized cities (the following figures are based on this survey), 78% of wives value the former more than the latter. Compared with the simple number of sexual life and the quality of sexual life (how many orgasms the wife can get from it), 85% of wives prefer high quality rather than large quantity.

　　Men's sexual life practice is not "the more the better". Between the ages of 30 and 35, more than half of husbands experience that their sexual needs have actually changed quietly, from needing large quantities to seeking high quality, hoping for deeper emotional communication and experience.

　　Because of this, if a man conceptually believes that the frequency of sexual life is the main measure of marital harmony, or even the only criterion, then he is likely to make two behavioral mistakes.

　　First, he may ignore or deny his wife's emotional needs, simplify sex life and turn it into a series of actions. In severe cases, he may greatly damage his wife's personality and emotions.

　　Second, he may inadvertently increase his psychological burden. Once he gets older or encounters special circumstances and cannot maintain the high frequency he thinks he has, he will suspect that he has the disease.“ Impotence”、“Premature ejaculation ”If you have a "sickness", you will be afraid of "sorrying your wife", and may even have doubts or disappointments about your entire personality and life goals. As a result, the stronger you are, the less you can withstand accidents.

　　In fact, the frequency of a man's sexual life is basically determined by his physiological condition and age. It is similar for all ethnic groups in the world. Moreover, almost every man will have some periods of less sex and some more times in his life. There is no question of "how many times should there be". A man's sexual charm mainly lies in his mature personality, considerate and broad-mindedness and deep emotional persistence. If you don't pay attention to the cultivation of these aspects, but only care about or brag about the frequency of sex, it will be difficult for men to get rid of the misunderstandings in their sexual life.